I should clarify.
I am talking about my 18 year old daughter who will graduate high school in a month, wants to take a year off before she goes to college, got fired from her job, and is going to move in with her boyfriend of 6 months.
Now you get the picture.
I have a running bill of over $500.00 that she owes me for her cell phone and monthly cell phone bills. And I made it crystal clear that she is not moving anywhere until she has a full time job, because once she goes, I will not help her.
I will NOT help her. Bad Mom? Whatever. I still have a 14 and 11 year old daughter here that I am raising alone, so if she wants to be a grown up, she can be a grown up.
The way I see it, is if you are not going to college, you have 16 hours a day available to work in order to financially support yourself.
Ramen noodles? You better get a taste for them. Planet Fitness? Yeah; I ain’t paying that.
It is so tough watching them spread their wings to fly when you can see the crash and burn coming right around the corner.
Parenthood is way over-rated. I was never meant to be a Mom, and should have never been a Mom. But that is a whole different post I will share with you soon enough.
How do you tough-love your kids when they refuse to listen to logic and reason?
Exactly as you are , it’s always a learning curve for us mums but as long as she knows you love her and your door is open ,she needs to spread her wings….I have the t/shirt and 6 kids so I know 😉 not everything..ha ha..but close…All grown up now and I will say making a fine job in bringing up their own kids…Good Luck all will be just fine 🙂
Thanks Blondie! She is extremely smart, but a bit over-confident 🙂
I’m sure she is and if my experience is anything to go by that may quickly change 🙂 Or of course she may never look back…only time will tell and you will worry of course as a mum but fly they must some sooner than others 🙂
I completely agree with you. It gets to a point where our kids need to realize we can not enable them to “enjoy” life without responsibilities!!!!!!! Good job!!!
She is in for one heck of a reality check as soon as she moves out! I truly hope she succeeds, but she really has no clue…
I’m surprised the cell phone hasn’t been disconnected. There is a reality check for her!
Sometimes tough love is what it takes. My parents never really did that for myself and my siblings and we definitely over relied on them for everything.
Her cell phone will be turned off when her month expires unless if she has the money to pay for another month 🙂