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Questioning Life Changes, Does it Never End?

Published September 21, 2014 by Angela

I always seem to have a difficult time making very important decisions; never being able to stop asking myself, “but what if I did …”. The past year has been full of life changes for me. All for the positive, but never without stress and worry. I will be the first to admit that I overthink everything. Every single thing. At 42 years old, with a great career, family life, and good health, I still stress over making decisions.

Sometimes I wish I could be a kid again, when someone else would make the decisions for me. Then I wouldn’t be the one responsible when it didn’t work out. I have made some bad decisions; some real whoppers! But I do always own up to them, hopefully apologizing when necessary, and definitely learning from my bad choices.

I watch my girls go through the very same thing. Struggling to make decisions. I can see the look on their face when they are hoping I can and will give them the answer. But I can’t. There are some decisions that they have to make for themselves, to learn and grow from. Even when I know that there will be crying later. Broken hearts. Anger. I have to let them own that. They have to take that road that they choose and decide for themselves if they made the right decision.

My outlook as of late has been to take a positive from a negative, and focus on that. Now if I could just teach that to my girls 🙂

Does Anyone Ever Like Algebra? Do You Ever Use It?

Published September 18, 2014 by Angela

These are two of the many questions Erin is asking me as we are going through her algebra every day. I have to laugh, because I used to absolutely hate math. But I have had to take so many progressively difficult math classes in college that I actually now enjoy the challenge of working out a math problem.

But no, I did not tell her that she may never use algebra outside of school 🙂

It will all make sense at some point, I am just not sure yet what that point is for her.

Slowly but Surely…

Published September 17, 2014 by Angela

…she is beginning to find her focus, her groove, her motivation to stay on task for her homeschooling. Maybe it was the threat of the laptop disappearing (I can guarantee it was), but she definitely did what she needed to yesterday, and her grade improved 19%. Which makes her a very happy teenager, and me a happy mom.

I am crossing my fingers that it was not a fluke, and we can keep to a reasonable schedule from here on out.

What do you do if you find things getting off task?

Who is Homeschooling Whom?

Published September 16, 2014 by Angela

I am seeing a pattern. And I am not liking it. I seem to be spending more time going through my 8th grader’s homeschooling work, checking her calendar, making sure she has her schedule for the day, etc. etc. You probably know the drill.

But I am not seeing her put forth the same amount of effort as I am. I do not know what else to do to motivate her, but I am fast running out of ideas.

I either need better bribes, or better punishments 🙂

and how is your week going?

Can’t We All Just Get Along?

Published September 14, 2014 by Angela

Having 3 children each 3 years apart will probably be a blessing in the years to come, but they are certainly spaced out at the ages right now (16, 13, 10) to ensure that they will not ever get along, on any given day.

I have been listening to arguing for the past 3 days over rubber bands. Bracelet loom rubber bands. You know the ones I mean,  right? I have rubber-band bracelets laying around in every room of my house. The girls have 3 large containers (large!) full of these tiny little rubber bands. Not to mention the ones I am picking up all over my floors.

Said 10 year old got a new loom for her birthday on Friday (yes, I knew better than to buy another one, but I did anyhow). Somehow, the rubber bands that they have all been sharing now have separate owners, and one will not share with the other.

I know, I know! Just take them away. I seem to be buying rubber bands on a bi-weekly basis, and I do not recall ever buying these and handing them to one child and saying “Here. These are your rubber bands. You don’t need to share them.” I am pretty sure that I have always encouraged my girls to share, yet I seem to have daily battles over the most ridiculous things. I am trying to not get to the point where I point out the true fact that “All of those rubber bands, and looms, belong to me. I bought them. I went to work to earn the money to pay for them.” Because then I would be acting just like they are 🙂

So today I choose to pick my battles, and this is not going to be one of them. They can fight this one out themselves.

This Is Going On My Wall!

Published September 13, 2014 by Angela

It seems I have been asking the “Did you get your assessments done today?” Several times a day, only to go and check anyways, and then spend more hours getting said 8th grader caught up.

The plan is to be back on track by Sunday night, with all grades going up a level. It is way too early in the school year to start getting behind 🙂 How do you keep your homeschoolers on task?

So True!

So True!

Homeschooling Week 1

Published September 7, 2014 by Angela

Went fairly well, or at least better than I was expecting. After a long summer, I was concerned about my girls getting back into the swing of things. Having my 8th grader doing homeschooling this year through an online school allows her to have more control over what she does, as well as holding her to a higher level of responsibility.

Other than a couple software issues, things are going smoothly. I check in everyday to look at her assignments she submitted to verify she completed them. She will have a bi-weekly phone call starting this week with her homeroom teacher.

With that being said, I had a more hectic weekend than I expected, and did not get to verify her Friday work until this morning. Said 8th grader may not be happy when I wake her up to let her know she has 3 assignments she did not submit. I definitely learned my lesson, and will not miss my check in again.

She is good about getting things done that I ask of her, so I know she will be back on task this afternoon. And it looks like a sunshine filled Sunday in West Michigan, so I think she will still have time to enjoy what is likely one of our last warm, sunny days for the year 🙂

Do you have motivating techniques when your homeschooler gets off task?

What in the Name of All Things I Can’t Mention Happened Here?

Published September 5, 2014 by Angela

There are some days when I come home, and I literally question my girls if someone broke into the house; it is that destroyed 😦 There is a pile of dirty clothes upstairs trying to make its way through my bedroom door (I am not sure where the hamper went, probably sitting in front of the washer in the basement full of dirty clothes). There is a Wii controller upstairs on the bathroom sink. What??? (I have a basement, main floor, and upstairs where our bathroom and bedrooms are). There is no Wii system upstairs, anywhere 🙂  )

How does this happen? Probably the same way I found the television remote in the refrigerator, the milk in the pantry, and food that I could not even tell you what it once was underneath the furniture. I have come home to my frozen vegetables in the living room (my leg/arm/face hurt, I needed ice), the refrigerator door left open all night, and something burned in the microwave that lasted longer than someone could stay awake.

It has gotten to the point that nothing even shocks or surprises me anymore. The entire bathtub is purple? Ehh, someone dyed their hair. Your very expensive pan is on the stove full of hardened candle wax? Someone wanted to remake the candles.

Do not assume that I am never home minding my children 🙂 I have been at the kitchen table doing my college homework only to discover 3 very quiet girls in the living room who had a nail polish disaster.

With that being said; I would not trade it for anything. Because we laugh, we play games, we watch movies, we read stories, and we spend time together.

And I cannot think of one thing yet that they have done that is worse than anything I ever did to my parents!