I am hoping for new adventures, stronger relationships, and enjoying every day, no matter what it may bring me.
Returning to the homeschooling adventure is not something I was planning on, or thrilled about at the moment.
More to come
May your 2016 be everything you hoped and prayed for!
Had a fantastic night at our last home football game. Which means Senior Recognition Night, and I was able to hang out on the football field with my oldest daughter and my Senior as she was recognized for being the Drum Major in the marching band.
Bittersweet.
Yes; me. Bittersweet. Me, that complains about my girls, and how they drive me crazy and need to grow up and move out.
But I could not ever be more proud of this girl. She has went through, and put up with, so much BS, and she is absolutely beautiful, inside and out.
Oh, and yeah, Muskegon Big Reds did it again…pulled out a win even though the refs were being completely ridiculous. Even the opposing team said the refs were out of line!!!
After a whirlwind summer of the father of 3 of my girls moving back to town, and ending his I-will-see-you-once-a-year-for-Christmas, for 7 years, it looks like he is leaving again. He has had my youngest two every weekend for 2 months. I had to yell at him about disowning our 17-year-old because she could not spend weekends with him. She works, she is the Drum Major of the marching band, and is on the Varsity Volleyball team. It is her Senior year, and she has time for no one.
He had an interview to get hired in where he was working as a temp. While he was there, his girlfriend left him a note and bolted.
Okay, I am sorry, but at some point I would expect his family to stop hating me. Two ex-wives and a girlfriend leave him. It may be time for you to realize that he is indeed the problem.
So I have an 11 year old who is going to lose her mind, and be heartbroken if he is not here next weekend to get her. And I do not think he will be.
And I am about 98% positive that after I pick up the pieces this time, she will be done with him. Just like the other girls. So once again, I get to nurture broken girls, who have no father, and how much longer do I have to do this, really?
Day 49: So now my 4 girls are fully invested, and the stalker is doing everything possible to make sure they like him. They like him. I complain about being suffocated, and my girls are concerned I am going to hurt him.
Day 47: I am looking at a major investment: he is planning our house together.
Day 46: I tell him he needs to SLOW DOWN. I need space. He agrees.
Day 44: I wake up at 3:30am to a message about how I have changed his life and he will love me forever and a day.
Day 44 later: I tell him we discussed this, and he was going to slow down.
Day 43: He gets mad at me because I will not let him sleep over. I blame my 17 year old, but honestly, I cannot sleep with him in my bed pawing me all night. (I do NOT sleep good: no one gets to sleep in my bed).
Day 41: I am asked how many bedrooms I need in a house. “One. Just one. With a twin bed. And a library.” Oh, and maybe a room for all of my nekkid kittys…
to be continued, and I am not a horrible person, even though I know you think it right now.
10) He believes it is okay to disrupt your children’s very busy, very scheduled daily lives.
9) He does not feel the need to apologize to your children for only seeing them once a week each year, for the past several years.
8) He gets mad at one of them because they do not have time to come stay with him for a night or two.
7) He cannot stop telling you what a great idea it would be for one of your children to live with him full-time…when he finds a place to live; that is…he is currently living at a local campground, in a tent.
6) He truly believes he knows how to be a parent, even though he obviously has had no experience at it. You know; because he disappeared and all.
5) He comes to places where you are hanging out with your 3 children, but he will not talk to or even acknowledge the one who does not have time to stay in his tent at the campground. But acts like father-of-the-year with the other two.
4) He will not answer your phone calls or text messages when you ask when he will be bringing your children back home.
3) He refuses to pay child support or buy them things that they need; but is perfectly okay with letting you know what those things are so you can buy them.
2) He does not accept the children for who they are, and their individualism. He believes they are “broke” and need to be fixed.
1) He cannot, and will not, ever see the fact that it is he who is broken, and needs to be fixed.
…with your kids. Especially when your 17 year old daughter has had enough and has to come home.
Sent a msg over a week ago for confirmation that something that needed to be taken care of, actually got taken care of.
Still waiting for a reply.
And you wonder why I do not like either of you…
Or find you to be tools that no one wants in their shed.
Very angry that I do not know how my girls are doing; and you better sure-as-shit remember this the next time you ask for a favor.
And NO, I do not grant favors.
Never trust someone with your kids: they will NEVER get it!
I honestly do not know if I would have made it if I lived in this non-stop-internet-cannot-get-away-from-anyone world.
My house, as far as my girls are concerned, is going dark. No internet. No television. No watching ridiculous-crap-on-Netflix.
I thought I had turned a corner. I guess I did. But that corner just took me back around the block I have been running on and now I am doing circles.
Done.
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