I am talking about my 18 year old daughter who will graduate high school in a month, wants to take a year off before she goes to college, got fired from her job, and is going to move in with her boyfriend of 6 months.
Now you get the picture.
I have a running bill of over $500.00 that she owes me for her cell phone and monthly cell phone bills. And I made it crystal clear that she is not moving anywhere until she has a full time job, because once she goes, I will not help her.
I will NOT help her. Bad Mom? Whatever. I still have a 14 and 11 year old daughter here that I am raising alone, so if she wants to be a grown up, she can be a grown up.
The way I see it, is if you are not going to college, you have 16 hours a day available to work in order to financially support yourself.
Ramen noodles? You better get a taste for them. Planet Fitness? Yeah; I ain’t paying that.
It is so tough watching them spread their wings to fly when you can see the crash and burn coming right around the corner.
Parenthood is way over-rated. I was never meant to be a Mom, and should have never been a Mom. But that is a whole different post I will share with you soon enough.
How do you tough-love your kids when they refuse to listen to logic and reason?
…when you have 2 different daughters who leave their Facebook accounts open; one on IE, and one on Google Chrome? Literally, the computer was completely shut off, and I turn it on, and go to get into my FB account, and voila, they each have their accounts open on a different platform.
Oh; yeah, the answer is “NO”, it is not snooping. I have 2 daughters, one is now 18 and an “adult”, who I am literally counting the days until her graduation, her open house, and packing her up and moving her to Colorado.
Call me a bad Mom, I honestly do not care. My 14 year old has been trouble since she learned what the word was. She is smart, beautiful, and abandoned by her father when she was 4, so any man, and yes I mean Man, that gives her attention; she is all over it.
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So I am going to sit here and make sure my girls are safe. Because no one else will. And, unfortunately, no one else cares.
7th grade consisted of buying $500.00 worth of books, writing my own lesson plan and schedule, with minimum success.
8th grade consisted of registering at an online academy; again with minimal success.
9th grade has me rethinking this whole situation. Although I know what the basic requirements are for each high school grade in Michigan in order for my daughter to get a diploma, the emphasis will be on the things that interest her. The things she is passionate about, as well as the things that challenge her.
So she is starting French, working through some pre-test SAT books, reading about Joan of Ark, and practicing math skills.
I have no idea what the coming weeks will bring, but I certainly feel much better about this method than the previous ones I have tried.
10) He believes it is okay to disrupt your children’s very busy, very scheduled daily lives.
9) He does not feel the need to apologize to your children for only seeing them once a week each year, for the past several years.
8) He gets mad at one of them because they do not have time to come stay with him for a night or two.
7) He cannot stop telling you what a great idea it would be for one of your children to live with him full-time…when he finds a place to live; that is…he is currently living at a local campground, in a tent.
6) He truly believes he knows how to be a parent, even though he obviously has had no experience at it. You know; because he disappeared and all.
5) He comes to places where you are hanging out with your 3 children, but he will not talk to or even acknowledge the one who does not have time to stay in his tent at the campground. But acts like father-of-the-year with the other two.
4) He will not answer your phone calls or text messages when you ask when he will be bringing your children back home.
3) He refuses to pay child support or buy them things that they need; but is perfectly okay with letting you know what those things are so you can buy them.
2) He does not accept the children for who they are, and their individualism. He believes they are “broke” and need to be fixed.
1) He cannot, and will not, ever see the fact that it is he who is broken, and needs to be fixed.