Why You Suck As A Father Part II
Published August 14, 2015 by AngelaYes, I am going to be that Mom-Ex for a minute.
Okay, for a few weeks, more than likely. In case if you missed my first rant of why the dad-who-disappeared is stressing me out, you can read that here: Why an Absentee Father Should Disappear Again
So, you may have read it, or you didn’t. But I will fill you in on some backstory.
I got divorced nearly 9 years ago. For the past 7 years, the ex has picked up our girls for one week a year; at Christmas. He doesn’t pay child support. He doesn’t call them on their birthdays. He does not try to contact them except to let me know he is getting them over Christmas break.
So suddenly, he moves back into town.
And when I say back into town, I mean he is living at a local campground in a tent.
So although my 10 and 14 year old are more than able to go spend weekends with him, my 17-year-old senior in high school is not. Why not? Because she is the Drum Major for the marching band. She is on the Varsity Volleyball team. She has a job. And she is working on scholarship applications already because she knows I am very limited on how I can pay her tuition.
So what does he do? He ignores her.
When I get home from working 10 hours today to have my 14 year old say to me “Dad is picking us up tomorrow before he goes to work. For a surprise. But we don’t know what is going on. He will drop us back off before he goes to work.”
ME: “Is 17-year-old part of this surprise?”
14-year-old: “I don’t think so.”
Who does this? What kind of “father” punishes his daughter for trying to be the best person she can be? If you have not read that post I linked to above yet, you should probably read it now.
I am so beyond upset and stressed because he is back disrupting our lives, but I do know it will not be for long. I told him a long time ago……”When your kids get older, they will not have time for you…just like you do not have time for them now.”
What Has Happened To Us?
Published August 13, 2015 by AngelaAs I manage 3 blogs and read through what the community is saying via what my blog is about, I find it so very sad to see so many women with newborn babies struggling to raise them alone. Women who were told to “get rid of it”, but didn’t. Women who were promised, “I will be there forever”, but it really meant I will be there until someone else catches my eye. Women who suddenly found themselves divorced with little children because the “family life” became to much for the father (I say that VERY loosely).
Why is it okay to just walk away? To say “It is not my problem?”
What happened to our morals, our foundation, our right and desire to live the American dream?
It is gone. And the people who still stick up for it are the outcasts, the freaks, the ones who reject change.
Believe-you-me, I would rather it still be like it was when I was a child in the 70’s and 80’s and parents beat your butt, you went outside and played until the streetlights came on just to give your parents some peace of mind, and you did NOT talk back.
Top 10 Reasons an Absentee-Father Should Go Absent Again…
Published August 13, 2015 by Angela10) He believes it is okay to disrupt your children’s very busy, very scheduled daily lives.
9) He does not feel the need to apologize to your children for only seeing them once a week each year, for the past several years.
8) He gets mad at one of them because they do not have time to come stay with him for a night or two.
7) He cannot stop telling you what a great idea it would be for one of your children to live with him full-time…when he finds a place to live; that is…he is currently living at a local campground, in a tent.
6) He truly believes he knows how to be a parent, even though he obviously has had no experience at it. You know; because he disappeared and all.
5) He comes to places where you are hanging out with your 3 children, but he will not talk to or even acknowledge the one who does not have time to stay in his tent at the campground. But acts like father-of-the-year with the other two.
4) He will not answer your phone calls or text messages when you ask when he will be bringing your children back home.
3) He refuses to pay child support or buy them things that they need; but is perfectly okay with letting you know what those things are so you can buy them.
2) He does not accept the children for who they are, and their individualism. He believes they are “broke” and need to be fixed.
1) He cannot, and will not, ever see the fact that it is he who is broken, and needs to be fixed.
Unity Music Festival 2015
Published August 5, 2015 by Angela
Nature At It’s Best!
Published July 26, 2015 by Angela
Sorry, but I could not resist throwing my nekkid kitty in there 🙂 Mr. Bare-Bottom-Benjamin-Blu has been giving me a run for my money today. But we call him Benny, for short 🙂 He hates flies, and he has eaten his share today….makes me sick to see it… 😦
It’s Always A Good Day For Baseball!
Published July 25, 2015 by Angela
Are You Kidding Me?
Published July 23, 2015 by AngelaWhy does this have to be going on right now? I have my 14 year old ready to go to high school, and her absent-father decides to move back to town.
What?
I have spent 7+ years taking care of these girls with no child support, no emotional support, but lots of physiological Dr. appointments because you abandoned your kids.
So now you are back in town, camping at a park, and you moved back? But you still need a job, and a place to live, and again, I get to pick up the pieces.
You will not like how this ends…
A West Michigan Sunrise
Published July 3, 2015 by AngelaSince I have been awake since 3am, which seems to have been my routine for more years than I can count, I figured it was a perfect day to get out and get some pictures. My favorite pictures have to be nature coated with dew, and wildlife, of course.
As much as I like these pictures, I certainly hope tomorrow finds me sleeping in. May you have a beautiful day as well!
John Ball Zoo – Grand Rapids, Michigan
Published July 2, 2015 by Angela
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