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My Own Personal Stalker – 49 Days and Counting…

Published August 21, 2015 by Angela

Day 49: So now my 4 girls are fully invested, and the stalker is doing everything possible to make sure they like him. They like him. I complain about being suffocated, and my girls are concerned I am going to hurt him.

Day 47: I am looking at a major investment: he is planning our house together.

Day 46: I tell him he needs to SLOW DOWN. I need space. He agrees.

Day 44: I wake up at 3:30am to a message about how I have changed his life and he will love me forever and a day.

Day 44 later: I tell him we discussed this, and he was going to slow down.

Day 43: He gets mad at me because I will not let him sleep over. I blame my 17 year old, but honestly, I cannot sleep with him in my bed pawing me all night. (I do NOT sleep good: no one gets to sleep in my bed).

Day 41: I am asked how many bedrooms I need in a house. “One. Just one. With a twin bed. And a library.” Oh, and maybe a room for all of my nekkid kittys…

to be continued, and I am not a horrible person, even though I know you think it right now.

How To Get Your Own Personal Stalker!

Published August 19, 2015 by Angela

I will be as humorous as I can here, but dating a person for 2 months has completely turned me against ever being in a relationship again. EVER. I will be 43 years old next week, and I want nothing more than to be left alone with no one touching me or asking me for anything.

And now I will clarify that, because I am not the Ice Queen; unemotional, and lacking in feelings.

So, here we go…

60 days ago: I ask out someone I know, kind of, and worked with, kind of, and knew he was on a list for a heart transplant.

59 days ago: I am on my way home from work, I ordered pizza and I will pick you up on my way home.

59 days ago, later: I pick you up. We have never had a serious conversation, but you come out the door with flowers and lean towards me to kiss me….WTF? Your whole family is right there watching, is there some kind of conversation going on behind the scene that I am never privy to?

56 days ago: I am getting random messages at all weird hours of the night. And wake up to FB posts where you high-jacked my blog pictures and are declaring your love to me for all of our 800 friends to see.

56 days ago: I tell you to knock it to hell off. I need space. I like to crawl into bed and stay there for days at a time. I love my cat. I LOVE MY CAT. This is the only man who will ever own my heart again. (Okay, and how flipping awesome is he, anyhow?)

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53 days ago: All is quiet, for a bit. But I am making excuses to not see this guy, but how can I be the person to dump the guy with the defective heart waiting for a transplant? Everyone loves him.

52 days ago: He tells me the last girl he dated told him he deserves to dies alone. I was mad at the time. Now I understand.

50 days ago: He wants to go to church with me, because church is my #1. Yet he has never been to church. He has no idea if I am Catholic, Christian, Mormon, or anything else….

And there is more to come tomorrow. Stay tuned, I will let you know how to get rid of a stalker asap!

Why You Suck As A Father Part II

Published August 14, 2015 by Angela

Yes, I am going to be that Mom-Ex for a minute.

Okay, for a few weeks, more than likely. In case if you missed my first rant of why the dad-who-disappeared is stressing me out, you can read that here: Why an Absentee Father Should Disappear Again

So, you may have read it, or you didn’t. But I will fill you in on some backstory.

I got divorced nearly 9 years ago. For the past 7 years, the ex has picked up our girls for one week a year; at Christmas. He doesn’t pay child support. He doesn’t call them on their birthdays. He does not try to contact them except to let me know he is getting them over Christmas break.

So suddenly, he moves back into town.

And when I say back into town, I mean he is living at a local campground in a tent.

So although my 10 and 14 year old are more than able to go spend weekends with him, my 17-year-old senior in high school is not. Why not? Because she is the Drum Major for the marching band. She is on the Varsity Volleyball team. She has a job. And she is working on scholarship applications already because she knows I am very limited on how I can pay her tuition.

So what does he do? He ignores her.

When I get home from working 10 hours today to have my 14 year old say to me “Dad is picking us up tomorrow before he goes to work. For a surprise. But we don’t know what is going on. He will drop us back off before he goes to work.”

ME: “Is 17-year-old part of this surprise?”

14-year-old: “I don’t think so.”

Who does this? What kind of “father” punishes his daughter for trying to be the best person she can be? If you have not read that post I linked to above yet, you should probably read it now.

I am so beyond upset and stressed because he is back disrupting our lives, but I do know it will not be for long. I told him a long time ago……”When your kids get older, they will not have time for you…just like you do not have time for them now.”

What Has Happened To Us?

Published August 13, 2015 by Angela

As I manage 3 blogs and read through what the community is saying via what my blog is about, I find it so very sad to see so many women with newborn babies struggling to raise them alone. Women who were told to “get rid of it”, but didn’t. Women who were promised, “I will be there forever”, but it really meant I will be there until someone else catches my eye. Women who suddenly found themselves divorced with little children because the “family life” became to much for the father (I say that VERY loosely).

Why is it okay to just walk away? To say “It is not my problem?”

What happened to our morals, our foundation, our right and desire to live the American dream?

It is gone. And the people who still stick up for it are the outcasts, the freaks, the ones who reject change.

Believe-you-me, I would rather it still be like it was when I was a child in the 70’s and 80’s and parents beat your butt, you went outside and played until the streetlights came on just to give your parents some peace of mind, and you did NOT talk back.

Top 10 Reasons an Absentee-Father Should Go Absent Again…

Published August 13, 2015 by Angela

10) He believes it is okay to disrupt your children’s very busy, very scheduled daily lives.

9) He does not feel the need to apologize to your children for only seeing them once a week each year, for the past several years.

8) He gets mad at one of them because they do not have time to come stay with him for a night or two.

7) He cannot stop telling you what a great idea it would be for one of your children to live with him full-time…when he finds a place to live; that is…he is currently living at a local campground, in a tent.

6) He truly believes he knows how to be a parent, even though he obviously has had no experience at it. You know; because he disappeared and all.

5) He comes to places where you are hanging out with your 3 children, but he will not talk to or even acknowledge the one who does not have time to stay in his tent at the campground. But acts like father-of-the-year with the other two.

4) He will not answer your phone calls or text messages when you ask when he will be bringing your children back home.

3) He refuses to pay child support or buy them things that they need; but is perfectly okay with letting you know what those things are so you can buy them.

2) He does not accept the children for who they are, and their individualism. He believes they are “broke” and need to be fixed.

1) He cannot, and will not, ever see the fact that it is he who is broken, and needs to be fixed.

Can I Ever Keep My Daughters Safe?

Published June 21, 2015 by Angela

I honestly do not know if I would have made it if I lived in this non-stop-internet-cannot-get-away-from-anyone world.

My house, as far as my girls are concerned, is going dark. No internet. No television. No watching ridiculous-crap-on-Netflix.

I thought I had turned a corner. I guess I did. But that corner just took me back around the block I have been running on and now I am doing circles.

Done.

My New Boyfriend Likes It

Published June 14, 2015 by Angela

Remember that perfume you spent days looking for as a Christmas gift?

My new boyfriend likes it.

Remember that new restaurant we were going to try out?

My new boyfriend likes it.

Remember how I got “emotional” and showed my feelings?

My new boyfriend likes it.

Remember how we couldn’t do family things because you already raised your kids?

My new boyfriend likes it.

Remember how I could not get mad at you, otherwise I had anger issues?

My new boyfriend likes it.

Remember how the last time we went through this you said you would never forget how it hurt?

My new boyfriend likes it.

And so do I.

Because I will finally stand up for myself, and my wants, my needs, and more than anything; my kids.

Because I have someone that has decided to love me because of my flaws, and not in spite of my flaws.

And my daughters like that.